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Hello

I’m Ricardo Pelayo, and my mission is to empower men to rise above the anxiety, stress, and emotional turmoil that can keep us feeling stuck, aimless, or frustrated in today’s world. Through years of navigating my own path and helping countless others, I know firsthand the pressures men face in relationships, careers, and even in finding purpose and meaning in life. That’s why I created Modern Man Alive and The Anxiety Mentor—to be one place where men can find the tools, insights, and support they need to regain control, build resilience, and start thriving on their own terms.

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My Story

The Boy Who Refused to Be Broken

I grew up in an environment where chaos was the norm and uncertainty shadowed every day. From an early age, anxiety, fear, and loneliness became my constant companions. As I moved through childhood and adolescence, those feelings deepened into depression and periods of overwhelming inner struggle.

Like many men, I tried to carry the weight on my own. I faced setbacks that shook the foundations of my life—divorce, separation from my children, bankruptcy, and the collapse of my business. For years, I lived as what I now recognise as a “functional depressive”—outwardly managing life, but inwardly battling despair, resentment, and anxiety.

And yet, I never gave up.

For more than 20 years, I immersed myself in self-enquiry, workshops, and transformational practices. I studied human behaviour, tested countless tools, and learned how to turn pain into purpose. Along the way, I discovered I had been living with ADHD traits all my life—something that finally explained my whirlwind of thoughts, hyperfocus, and restlessness. Understanding this gave me clarity and compassion for myself that I had long been missing.

Through this journey, I built resilience, empathy, and a deep belief in the power of transformation. I’ve gone from surviving to thriving, and now my mission is to help others do the same.

Today, as a life and business coach, I guide men who feel stuck, anxious, or overwhelmed to reclaim their power, find clarity, and create a life of purpose and confidence. I know how hard it can be to face the darkness—but I also know that no matter how broken you feel, you are never beyond repair.

 
Why Work With Me?

If you’re tired of just coping and ready to create meaningful change, I can help. I offer practical tools, mindset shifts, and personal guidance—rooted in lived experience and years of study—that will help you:

  • Break free from mental roadblocks.

  • Build clarity and confidence.

  • Move from stagnation to momentum.

  • Experience calm, purpose, and fulfillment.

Whether through one-on-one coaching, group programs, or community support, my goal is to help you step into the life you know you’re capable of living.

What’s On Offer
  • The Anxiety Breakthrough Program – A group coaching journey to address the roots of stress and anxiety, so you can regain clarity, balance and direction.

  • Purpose and Power Coaching – One-to-one tailored sessions to help you set goals, create action plans, and move forward with confidence.

  • The Modern Man Club – A supportive community of men, with workshops, discussions, and tools to help you grow.

  • ‘Snatch Out of Stagnation’ Program – A recorded program for those who prefer to work at their own pace while diving into self-discovery.

The First Step Toward Your Best Life

Change begins with one choice. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start thriving, I’d be honoured to walk with you. Let’s explore what’s holding you back, discover the breakthroughs waiting for you, and build a life rooted in confidence, clarity, and purpose.

Let’s make it happen—together.

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I'm always looking for new and exciting opportunities. Let's connect.

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