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The Boy Who Refused to Be Broken

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I was born into chaos. My childhood unfolded in the shadow of dysfunction, with fights erupting like storms that I could never predict or escape. I was the youngest for the first 13 years of my life, until my youngest brother was born, and yet I often felt entirely alone. By the age of 4, my parents’ marriage was a battleground, and the anxiety began to seep into my bones.

When my father disappeared, only my mother and I moved into my aunt’s small flat. Every time my mother left the place, fear would overwhelm me. I’d cry myself into exhaustion and collapse under my aunt’s sofa, convinced something terrible had happened to her. When my parents reunited and agreed about leaving our capital city for a small town in Venezuela’s flatlands, I didn’t realize it would mean more isolation, more uncertainty, and more pain.

The new town brought with it my father’s heavy drinking, the violence, and my mother’s tears. One night, after an argument at a party, my father hit my mother in the middle of the road, leaving her unconscious and bleeding. I thought she was dead. I was seven years old. At 11 we moved to another town, this time closer to my place of birth, having to say good bye to the few friends I made before.

At 12, a different storm began to brew inside me—one that didn’t come from external chaos but from the unsettling silence of existential dread. Every night for weeks, I lay in bed consumed by thoughts of death, unable to make sense of life. The heaviness eventually lifted, but it left behind a shadow: depression.

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Depression became a familiar companion, first appearing at 15 and growing stronger over the years, peaking again in my 30s, 40s, and then in my late 50s. By then I suspect I was living as a functional depressive. At the age of 35 I’ve turned to Prozac in desperation, but I’ve always been wary of depending on anything outside myself for too long, so I stopped a few months after.

I am very familiar with the journey from resentment to frustration to anger, many episodes of rage to numbness and depression and back to a fairly normal life. Living with fear and anxieties for long periods of time.

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Soft drugs became an occasional crutch, not to escape reality but to soften the edges of my mind so I could carry on with my responsibilities. But I’ve always preferred to face life head-on, determined to wrestle control back from the chaos.

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Only a few years ago, I discovered that I present most if not all the traits of an ADHD person, which explained the whirlwind of thoughts, impatience, and erratic behaviour I’d struggled with for decades. Hyperfocus, my superpower, often worked against me, dragging me deep into projects while life unravelled around me almost without noticing. I’ve faced more than my fair share of setbacks: divorce, separation from my children, bankruptcy, and the collapse of my architectural practice.

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But my story didn’t end there, although I was close to end it a few times.

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Through 20 years of self-enquiry, countless workshops, personal development and transformational programs I’ve transformed pain into purpose. I’ve learned to break free from the cycles of resentment, anger, and fear that once held me captive. I’ve studied behaviours, mastered tools, and discovered how to navigate the chaos of the mind.

Now, I use my experiences to guide others. As a life and business coach, I help individuals reclaim their power, just as I reclaimed mine.

I understand what it means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure of where to turn. I know the courage it takes to fight your way out of the darkness, and I’m here to help others do the same.

Those times have taught me resilience, empathy, clarity, and the value of living with purpose. My journey has become my mission: to inspire transformation, empower change, and help others find clarity and confidence in their own lives.

One thing I’ve learned it’s this: no matter how broken you feel, you are never beyond repair.

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Why Work with Me?

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If you're tired of feeling overwhelmed, drained, or simply "going through the motions," you're not alone. As men, we're often expected to just handle it, to suppress what we're going through and get on with your role no matter what.

But there’s a way to turn things around, to go beyond coping and actually create a life where confidence, purpose, and genuine satisfaction are at the forefront.

I offer group and one-on-one coaching, practical tools, and mindset shifts, backed by my own journey and years of deep study in overcoming anxiety and finding a clear path forward. My approach combines self-inquiry, mindset work, and proven techniques that help you gain clarity, break free from mental roadblocks, and experience true inner calm.

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What’s On Offer:

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1. The Anxiety Breakthrough Program: A transformative group coaching experience designed to address the root causes of your stress and anxiety. You’ll learn effective techniques to regain mental clarity and emotional balance, helping you to live with more confidence and purpose.

2. The Purpose and Power one-on-one coaching: This program combines goal-setting, tailored action plans, and ongoing support. Here, we focus on bringing your true goals to life, whether that’s in your career, relationships, or overall personal growth.

3. The Modern Man Club: Join a supportive community of like-minded men who, like you, are ready to step beyond the anxiety, doubt, and daily grind. You’ll have access to workshops, group discussions, podcast interviews and practical tools to help you overcome challenges and build the life you envision.

4. ‘Snatch out of Stagnation’ recorded program: a program that forms the basis of the anxiety breakthrough for those that wants to take it on their own time and venture themselves in this amazing journey of self-discovery.

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The First Step Toward Your Best Life

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Every journey begins with a single step. Take yours by reaching out to me today. Let’s explore what’s holding you back, identify the breakthrough moments that can transform your mindset, and create a game plan that takes you from merely surviving to fully thriving. You deserve to feel grounded, fulfilled, and ready to take on whatever life throws your way.

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Let’s make it happen, together.